SAN DIEGO — About 100 evangelical Christian
couples stand in the convention hall of a Four Points Sheraton, bow
their heads and thank God for their lives and the new day. Then they
sing the old-timey hymn “There’s Not a Friend Like the Lowly Jesus.” I
have come here expecting exactly this scene. The occasion is a seminar
called “Love, Sex and Marriage,” being given by Joe Beam, a Southern
preacher out of the old school, a self-described
“book-chapter-and-verse guy,” who runs an outfit based in Franklin,
Tenn., called Family Dynamics.
So I’m anticipating condemnation of American culture — especially
America’s sexual culture — that has made conservative Christians feel
besieged.
But then Beam, a portly, silver-haired basso profundo dressed in khaki
slacks, a sweater vest and brown tasseled loafers that make him look
like a retired country-club golf pro, walks to the front of the room
and proceeds to tell the men in the audience how to make their semen
taste better.
The San Diego Church of Christ is Beam’s sponsoring group today, but as
far as he is concerned it could be any conservative Christian
denomination. The message would be the same: Married Christians ought
to be having more — and hotter — sex.
You could be forgiven for thinking
“conservative Christian” and “hot sex” are oxymoronic. The missionary
position has a real history, after all. But Beam is part of a
burgeoning trend among evangelicals to bring sex out of the shadows,
educate believers and relieve their guilt.
"For
years, Christian publishing would not publish on sex," says Michael
Sytsma, a Christian sex therapist with the Sexual Wholeness Ministry
based in Duluth, Ga. "If they did, it was so heavily edited nothing of
value was left. Now, more and more pastors are preaching about it on
Sunday, though you still do not see classes in seminaries. We are
seeking to do that."
Sytsma
thinks preachers like Beam have seen — and even felt themselves — the
impact of the sexual revolution, and realize the church has been left
behind as a source of sexual information.
“Sex
is a sacred subject," he says. “The church generally prefers not to
talk about it. But that has a dual impact. It keeps it shrouded in
ignorance and the implication is that since you are not talking about
it, it’s bad.”
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